Sunday, May 13, 2012

Some Thoughts on Motherhood

I've been a mother for just about thirty years now, so I thought I'd share some of my thoughts and observations about motherhood, based on my own experience but also observations of other mothers over the years.

When your children are small and people tell you the time will fly by, believe them. Even on those days when the house is a wreck, the kids are running wild and you would kill for a coffee break, believe them. One day, you will look back and wonder how those days passed so swiftly.

Say yes, say no, but use "maybe" sparingly and only when you really do mean "maybe." Otherwise, kids may think "Maybe means yes if I whine enough."

You are always teaching by example.

Occasional silliness will not mean your kids don't respect you.

Follow your instincts. Somewhere, there will be a parenting book that says you're doing the right thing.

Of course every family and family situation is different. Not everyone has been as fortunate as I to have parents to teach by excellent example, or to have as wonderful a partner to share child-raising responsibilities. Nor am I a perfect mother - far from it. I've made mistakes, many of them. In spite of that, my kids are happy, successful adults, and my family is, without doubt, the greatest joy of my life.


Anonymous said...

Happy Mother's Day.

I have a few more thoughts to add.

If someone else's kid is having a screaming fit, don't just assume they are a bad parent. Some of us have kids with developmental problems, and until you've had to deal with it yourself, you DON'T know what we are going through. Ask questions before you offer opinions or advice.

I also say to heck with the house being clean. Any day that ends with the house still standing and everyone in one piece is a good day, in my opinion.

Right now, I am at eight cats (five indoor, two indoor/outdoor, one outdoor), the neighbor's three cats, one bird and three dogs (I rescued a German Shepherd puppy). Plus my two kids, both of whom are autistic. It gets crazy around here most days.

I'm looking forward to the book, whenever it comes out. Any idea yet about the date?


PS Have you ever considered naming one of your heroines Leontine? It's not very common, but that's what I've named the puppy.

Margaret Moore said...

I second those thoughts!

Boy, that's a lot of animals! I find two cats plenty.

I'm still working on the book, so nothing new to report.